Finding Well-Being

Well-being doesn't mean we have everything we want. It doesn't mean we're millionaires. It doesn't mean that life is perfect. Well-being simply means that we can be okay regardless of what's going on around us. Well-being is the ability to trust the path that gets put in front of you.

Most of you know that I use tarot to help me navigate my own journey. Yes, I'm fully intuitive and no, I don't need cards when I work with other people but I enjoy the little bit of separation from my ego that comes from using cards for myself. I've been using tarot for a long time and I trust the guidance that I get from them. I'm still human though and it's possible (and it happens a lot) that I read the cards wrong and I go off in some random direction. I'm totally okay with random directions because they are good for a laugh and sometimes they offer clarity that I wouldn't have gotten otherwise. I'm not beating myself up for those kinds of mistakes.

When I say I trust my cards, it's not because I never go off on some random adventure. It's not because things always work out the way I want them to. It's not because they warn me of every single little problem that might show up in my life. I trust them because I know that whether I read the cards correctly or not, I don't have to argue with the adventure. I trust them to help me get back on track if I happen to go off on some wild goose chase.

For a long time I wrote about my weekly struggles with getting my brain on board. I shared all the warped thinking that I had and the path I took to correct my thinking. I stopped writing those blogs because they weren't overly popular (that's okay!) and a different strategy appeared that seemed to make more sense based on where I was at the time. That meant that I stopped sharing my struggle almost entirely and it's not that life is perfect now. So, what shifted?

I stopped arguing with the adventure. I've learned to allow life to happen. I know that I don't need to struggle. I have intuitive guidance. I have awareness. I have the ability to gain clarity and mental understanding. Even if things happen that I don't like, I can understand why they are there, what I need to do, and how to move past them without struggling. It's not that my life is perfect, it's that I recognize that there is no need to struggle or argue with what's happening.

What shifted was me. I'm not stubbornly focused on only going in one direction or in having the path look the way I've decided it should look. I'm okay with whatever happens and it doesn't change my decision to go in a general direction. That's the key right there. I'm going in a general direction, the actual path is still subject to change. It's still open for debate. I don't argue with that. I don't try to force the path. I just maintain the choice to go in a general direction and I let life decide what the path looks like.

I can see the struggle with that from here because now you have to decide that you're okay with what shows up. Now you have to let go of the wheel. You have to let go of control. You're not driving the bus the way you think you should be. You've decided to go in a general direction, but you're not really making the choice of the route you take to get there. You've said you're going south. But in reality you might go south-east. You might even go north for awhile. You will ultimately get to where you want to go, you just have to trust that, but that's hard.

The ego decides the direction. The spirit lays out the path. The ego's job is to follow the path of the spirit. The spirit has the map. You have to trust that the left turn the spirit is taking is needed whether you think it is or not. I've done lots of work on myself on this path that didn't seem necessary to my human self. If you had read some of those hundreds of blogs over on Ko-Fi you would know, my path was all over the place. And guess what? I'm still going in the same general direction. I got to someplace that's close to what I wanted. It looks sort of okay. I didn't decide to go to Denver and end up in New York. The path still led towards the same general place.

Some of what I learned through all that was not to argue with the path. I don't argue with the directions I get from spirit. I just willingly go along with it and I'm open to the clarity that shows up because of it. I'm not afraid of the journey.

The stubborn need to control the path is what frustrates a lot of people. They start going down the path and quickly realize there's a sharp left they didn't plan to take, so they stop going. They quit before they even get started or they decide to go find another path that doesn't have the same sharp left. But now when they try this path it has a sharp right. They are being guided towards a set of experiences that are meant to help them and they avoid it because they don't see it as part of the path.

You have to trust the sharp left. You have to trust yourself to handle that. You have to stop arguing with the fact that it's there. Life is frustrating when you try to control every turn. It causes you to argue with it because you don't think you should have to have those experiences. The simple truth is that you need those experiences to be able to become the person that can handle the destination they have in mind.

By the way, this is true even if you don't have a set destination consciously in mind yet. Your spirit knows where you want to go, whether you're consciously aware of it yet or not. Your job is to go down the path so that you can figure out where you're going. The destination will make sense once it's revealed to you. But you have work to do before it can be revealed. If it were revealed now you'd run away screaming. You're not ready yet and that's okay.

Truth be told, if I'm honest about my own journey at the very beginning, this was true for me as well. If somebody had told me that this is what I would be doing, I would have run away screaming too. There was no way I was ready to handle this and there was no way I would have conjured this up as a good destination because it was so far away from where I was at the time. Not knowing was the best thing that could have happened to me.

The path was blind. Yes, I had a human goal but it had nothing to do with my career. This wasn't even on the radar. This wasn't in the same zip code. This wasn't in the same city. It wasn't in the same country. This was not one of the options. I want you to understand that just because the path is blind it doesn't mean it's invalid. Just because you can't see it, it doesn't mean you won't benefit from it. Just because you're not in control of it, it doesn't mean you need to be afraid of it.

I do not argue with the path. I accept whatever shows up however it shows up. I take the clarity. I take the experience. I take the guidance. I go willingly every single time. Whether I'm detouring because I read my cards wrong or whether spirit is taking me on a joy ride, it doesn't matter in the slightest. I go wherever I need to go and I enjoy the whole thing every time.

This is what I do. This is what I offer. I'm not controlling your path for you. I'm not telling you what direction to go in. Spirit says take a sharp left then we take a sharp left. Spirit says back up, we back up. Spirit says hang out, we hang out. Spirit says look for the clarity, we go find the clarity. Because I don't argue with the path, my job is only to encourage you to trust it and not run away from it. I can trust your path for you while I show you how to do it for yourself. You don't have to struggle or argue with it at all. I've learned that it's not scary and I can show you the same thing when you're ready.

The argument you have is the need for control and the feeling that you have no idea where you're going to end up. I get it, but I also know the only way to find out is to do it. You have to try it. You can stand on the side of the pool all day and be afraid to jump in because the water is cold. You have two choices: you can go back to the dressing room, get changed, and go home or you can jump in the pool. Which one are you doing?

Love to all.

Della